Friday, June 26, 2009

Rhona's Psychology Of Love

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Wag kang mag-alala, hinde ito emo post. Inspired lang by AC's post about love songs (worst love songs akshuli. I super love this girl na [think: Winkie, Lovely, Joycee, Azul and Star level] kasi napaka-direct to the point and fresh nyang mag-sulat. Walang arte, walang SMS-like drama. Alam mong strong sya na nasa lugar. Ayaw ko kasi sa mga blog at tao na kung magsalita e para bang napapa-cute na ang sarap tadyakan. Mapapansin nyo, lahat nang dinadaanan kong blog ay gawa ng mga taong may topak pero hinde maarte. Yun tipo bang makakausap mo nang matino at hinde parang text message lang ang post. Isang buong keyboard na ang nasa harap mo. Walang saysay kung paiiksiin mo pa lahat. Hinde ka sisingilin kung pahahabain mo yan....ay saglit, iba pala ang topic ko). Sabi kasi nya, walang wrong place, pwede pa wrong time when it comes to love (may asawa, may jowa).

Strike anywhere - yan din ang mantra ko. Hinde ako naniniwala sa pakipot. Promise! Why? Maraming tao ang tumatanda na may regrets at marami ring tao ang nagkakasakit sa puso kasi hinde nila nilalabas kagad ang nararamdaman nila. So if you like someone, I say, tell that person. What's the worst thing that could happen to you? I-reject ka? Layuan ka? O e di maganda! At least, maaga pa lang alam mo na, na wala kang aasahan. Then, work on letting go (take note, I did not use the word forget. In reality, the more painful something is, the more likely you are to remember EXCEPT if sobrang traumatic nang nangyari at hinde kaya ng consciousness mo. 'Pag ganun, most likely, your mind would have selective amnesia to protect itself).

Lagi kong sinasabi na 2 lang ang forte ko sa Psych - Abnormal at Sex Therapy. Akshuli, magaling din ako pag dating sa love (magaling mag-advice pero palpak sa personal application). Here's my own school of thought:

The Main Theories Of My Psychology Of Love

  1. It is okay to cry but you have to stop at a certain point. Kung kelan man yun, ikaw lang ang nakaka-alam.

  2. How fast one person recovers is different from how fast another will.

  3. Unconditional love is possible. When you can no longer find a reason to love someone and yet you still love that person, that's unconditional love.

  4. It's possible to fall in love with someone without really seeing them (Blogger Love Principle, naks!)

  5. You cannot recover from a heartache if you haven't gone through the stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. These are the same stages one needs to go through when a love one dies. So bakit kelangan mo rin daanan 'to? Kasi, getting your heart broken is like dying also. A part of you dies.

  6. It is possible to love two persons at the same time but it is not possible to have the same amount of love for both (woist, naka-based sa Bible 'to. You can't serve two masters at te same time)

  7. Kung gano kasakit ang ma-heartbroken, ganun din ang sakit sa pagpipigil sa nararamdaman mong pagmamahal sa isang tao kaya sabihin mo na yan.

  8. It doesn't matter who makes the first move. At the end of the day, pag isa sa'nyo e walang pinakitang motibo, walang mangyayari. Girls, okay lang magpakita ng motibo pero sa tamang tao. Boys, mag-ingat sa pagiinterpret sa motibo. Meron ding mga girls na sira ulo.

  9. The thinking, "baka may mas okay pa" usually leads to heartache. Kung mahal mo, mahal mo. Wag ka nang maghanap nang mas okay pa kasi baka yung nasa harap mo na ang pinaka-okay for you. God knows better. Kung hinde mo naman mahal, wag paglaruan. Digital ang karma at times two pa.

  10. It is possible to truly fall in love with someone even if you have just gotten past a relationship. Tulad nga ng sabi ko kanina, how fast one recovers from a failed relationship/ heartbreak could vary. May mga taong sadyang mabilis maka-recover.
My psychology is quite different from what you would hear from most people and you might not even agree to the things I've said. I am the carpe-diem type. Why keep yourself from what makes you happy? You only get to live once so seize the day! In the end, even if you get hurt, you wouldn't have any regrets. You would just smile and say, "loka-loka talaga ako".

Self-validation because I'm having an inferiority complex attack----> Polaris is awesome! Polaris is beautiful! Polaris is loved by so many people...and the next Wolverine who would make her fall in love is one helluva lucky guy :)


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23 comments:

  1. at last... BASE! teka, tuloy ko pagbabasa ko :)

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  2. waaaaah... i agree with your love psychology chuva! well, except for number 8. you know, i'm kinda shy... dalagang pilipina ako. mahinhin na tunay! nyahahaha!

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  3. @ winkie - you don't have to make any move...you just have to give some form of "motivation"

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  4. hmmmm... so im really on the right track. super motivate na si ______ at pati si ________. oh ah, may options 1 and 2 talaga! hahaha!

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  5. @winkies - yes my dahling clementine, tama ang iyong ginagawa...ipagpatuloy nyehehehehe

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  6. agree ako sa lahat teh!ahehe

    sabi nga nung ilang friends ko may pagka friendly flirt daw ako..hoho

    adik lang talaga cguro sila..

    ahahaha

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  7. denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance...akala ko stages of death 'to, grief pala. kay dr. house ko 'to unang narinig. huhlolz!

    at masyado ka namang mapangarap. si hugh jackman pa talaga ang hinahanap mo? huhlolz!

    p.s.

    pwedeng magpa-seks terapi? wahehehe. jokeness.

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  8. agree ako sa lahat...
    pero dun sa pang pito parang tinamaan naman ako haha..kaylangan ko na bang umamin haha..jokeness..

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  9. @azul - uy kalahi! tama ka, addict sila! nyahahaha

    @ Lio - yup, nabanggit nga yan dati sa House...stages of death ang pagkakaalam ng iba dyan...stages of grief sya talaga

    hmmm....ibig sabhin meron kang sexual disorder?! tsk tsk tsk...mahal ang consultation fee

    @ lovely - oo Lvely, isang malaking OO

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  10. ano nga bang aaminin ko ate..
    sayo ko na lang ibubulong pwede ba hehe..

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  11. asan ka ba kasi ate..hindi kita makita..

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  12. @ lovely - ay sori naman..naka invi ako...kakatapos ko lang lumafang

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  13. yay. May theories of psychology of love pa! paano kung ang course ay economics, theory of economics of love o theory of araling panlipunan of love. hehe.

    Yung number 4, bagay kay lovely yan! hehe.

    hehe. hindi nga emo!

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  14. dami kong hehe. 3! kungsabagay, tatlong paragraph yan!

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  15. @Ax - maganda yang suggestion mo...next tym gagawa naman ako Economics of Love :)

    korek ka sa number 4...bagay na bagay kay Lovely ahek!

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  16. @ax..paano mo nasabing bagay sakin ang no.4 parang di ko nabasa yan kanina..hehe..nilagpasan ko ata..hehe..

    @ate rhona..gatong oh...hehe..

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  17. ay, parang typo error lang yun! hehe.

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  18. @lovely - ay hinde ako nanggagatong....nakiki-agree lang ako

    @Ax - alin ang typo?

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  19. natats naman ako sa pagkamention mo sa kin dito. hihi. actually, wala masyado nakakaalam ng url ko na mga kakilala ko personally.. naiinis kase ako sa mga taong judgmental just because they think they know you too well. mas masarap kase sa pakiramdam kapag "strangers" ang nagbabasa ng entries ko, walang bias.. walang judgment, their comments would just rely on what i have written there. lahat pantay2. at oo, i hate hypocrites at yung mga taong pretending to be someone na hindi naman sila. hehe.

    actually, mejo tahimik nga blog ko lately eh. kase naman naaadik ako sa fesbuk. ayun wala na ko ginawa kundi maglaro kaya di ako mkapagsulat. wahaha. dati halos araw2 ako naguupdate ng blog at ang dami pa entries sa loob ng isang araw. huhuhu. naknangtokwang fesbuk! haha!

    yes, i also believe that UNCONDITIONAL LOVE exists..its when you love someone yet you know that you cant get anything from him/her, its like loving from afar..loving silently, wishing him/her well... hmmm.. parang ganon. basta, pwede ka naman magmahal ng hindi nasusuklian. kung hanggang saan matatapos, walang nakakaalam.. bigla na lang sya hihinto. kase if you love a person lahat ng best/good/better iwiwish mo for him, kase kapag nagfail sya o nasaktan, ikaw din masasaktan eh. parang ganun. teka, may sense ba sinasabi ko.. wahahha!

    and yeah, its possible to love two persons at the same time. magkaibang level lang. o yung intensity magkaiba. dati di ako naniniwala dito, pero naranasan ko. at naranasan din ng isang taong minahal ko. ang hirap pala. shaket sa dibdib! haha!

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  20. @AC - ikaw na officially ang may pinakamahabang comment ahehehe

    nakaaadik talaga ang FB....lalo na ang Mafia Wars, Restaurant City at Barn Yard....hinde pa kasama ang walang katapusang surveys, quizzes and tags...kaya mas mahal ko na sya kesa FS

    may sense naman yung sinasabi mo about Unconditional Love...tama ka sa definition mo

    at oo, mashaket sa dibdib ang magmahal ng 2 tao...gusto mong ipagdasal kay Papa God na pagsamahin na lang sila sa iisang katawan para wala kang nasasaktan

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  21. Aww ang ganda, agree ako lahat jan. Halos pareho tayo, although may doubts pa din ako sa paggawa ng first move.

    at talagang kelangan may blogger love principle, kaw na ang mahaba ang hair! :)

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  22. joycee -

    tulad ng sabi ko kay winkie, hinde kelangang first move sya talaga...ang tawag sa kanya ay "motivation"...kung alam ng boylet na wala syang mapapala, hinde rin sila mageeport kasi takot din ang mga yan ma-basted

    a syempre...kelangan ko talaga isingit yun

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